To attract your Beloved, you must first become your own. đź’–
Understanding the Love You’re Calling In
This is the second blog in my relationship series. Many people come to me wanting to remove blocks that prevent them from having a happy, healthy love relationship. My first question is always: What kind of relationship are you looking to create?
Most responses fall into three categories:
1. Soul Mate Love: A Relationship of Lessons
A soul mate relationship is one where two people come together to assist each other in learning major life lessons. While these relationships are deeply meaningful, they are often filled with challenges and struggles. Growth happens through difficulty, and many soul mate connections bring up wounds that need healing.
If you’re seeking a soul mate, be mindful of what you’re asking for—you may be inviting in a relationship that forces you to face your deepest fears and insecurities.
2. Twin Flames: The Mirror of Self
The concept of a twin flame suggests that we exist in multiple aspects and dimensions, and that somewhere out there, a person exists who is essentially another version of ourselves. The idea is that reuniting with this person will bring a sense of completion.
While this sounds beautiful, I remain open but cautious about this idea. A twin flame connection can be incredibly intense, but it also risks becoming co-dependent if not approached with awareness. The truth is, you are already whole. No external relationship will complete you.
3. The Beloved: The Relationship of Balance
This is where I place my focus. The Beloved is a love partner who respects, supports, and adores you in every capacity. Unlike soul mates or twin flames, this relationship is not based on pain, struggle, or searching for completion—it is a conscious partnership where each person complements the other without losing themselves.
A true Beloved connection is balanced, healthy, and deeply fulfilling.
How to Attract Your Beloved
The key to attracting the Beloved lies in the Universal Law of Attraction—the principle that like attracts like. If you desire a relationship rooted in respect, love, and balance, you must first cultivate those qualities within yourself.
Step 1: Become Your Own Beloved
You cannot attract what you are not yet embodying. To call in the love you desire, you must first:
âś” Love yourself unconditionally
âś” Treat yourself with respect and kindness
âś” Support yourself in the way you wish a partner would
The energy you radiate will determine what you attract. If you are constantly seeking love outside of yourself, you may end up in relationships that reflect lack rather than abundance.
Step 2: Shift Your Inner Narrative
Ask yourself:
- Do I truly believe I am worthy of deep, unconditional love?
- Am I holding onto past wounds that are blocking love from entering my life?
- What limiting beliefs do I need to release to align with the love I desire?
Your thoughts, beliefs, and emotional state all contribute to the type of relationship you attract. By shifting into a mindset of love and wholeness, you create space for a relationship that mirrors that energy.
Step 3: Act as If
Start showing up in life as if you are already in the loving, fulfilling relationship you desire. This doesn’t mean pretending—it means embodying the energy of love every day.
âś” Speak to yourself with kindness
âś” Prioritize self-care and self-worth
âś” Cultivate a life that feels full and abundant on its own
When you embody the qualities you seek, you naturally attract a partner who reflects them.
Final Thoughts: Love Starts With You
Attracting the Beloved is not about searching for love outside of yourself—it’s about becoming the love you seek. When you fully step into your own worth, respect, and self-love, the right partner will naturally align with you.
Next time, we’ll explore practical ways to deepen your relationship with yourself and raise your vibration to call in true love. Stay tuned!