Forgiveness: A Gift You Give Yourself
Forgiveness is one of the most misunderstood spiritual principles. Many believe it’s something we do to absolve another person for hurting us. But let’s be real—they probably don’t care. The truth is, forgiveness is something we do for ourselves to release the burden of resentment and pain.
Unforgiveness isn’t just an emotional weight—it’s an energetic block. The more we hold onto past wounds, the more they fester, growing heavier with time. Over years (or even lifetimes), this unresolved pain calcifies into a stone that keeps us stuck, limiting our ability to expand and evolve.
The moment we truly forgive, that stone dissolves. We create space for joy, healing, and higher consciousness.
Recognizing What Still Needs to Be Healed
Release the weight of resentment. Forgiveness isn’t about others; it’s about freeing yourself to heal and grow
Sometimes we think we’ve let go—until something happens that rips the scab off and we realize the wound is still there.
Just last week, I had a conversation with my daughter about my early days as a new mom. She called me out on something unexpected: “Why do you always slam my dad?”
I was stunned. I hadn’t even realized I was still carrying resentment toward my ex-husband. But she was right. A little self-reflection revealed that underneath my words was an old wound—one of disappointment, unfulfilled expectations, and lingering pain.
This was my sign. It was time to let go.
How to Truly Forgive and Move On
If you’re ready to release old emotional burdens, here’s how to start:
1️⃣ Identify Three People You Need to Forgive. Be honest with yourself. Who still triggers you? Who do you still resent? Write down their names.
2️⃣ Acknowledge Your Own Role. This isn’t about blame—it’s about empowerment. Ask yourself: What expectations or attachments did I have in this situation? How can I release them?
3️⃣ Forgive Yourself. This is the step most people skip. You did the best you could with what you knew at the time. Give yourself grace.
4️⃣ Let It Go—For Real. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and visualize the weight lifting off your shoulders. Say it out loud: I forgive and release you. I choose peace instead.
Final Thoughts: Forgiveness Sets You Free
Forgiveness isn’t about excusing bad behavior or letting someone off the hook—it’s about setting yourself free.
So today, give yourself the greatest gift possible: release.
And remember—when you forgive, you heal. When you let go, you create space for something better.